I know, I know. You haven’t had enough of these year in reflection posts so I thought I would put another out there for you. I like to take some time to reflect on a race or a training session. Was it hard and what did I do good or bad? Can I continue the good, can I change the bad? I spend a lot of time thinking and getting to know myself better. The theory is that the better I am the better I can make you. It may work, it may not but I do know that when I smile at somebody they smile back. So if I am better than so are you. It is a cyclical world and we all have to pay it forward.
So in the reflection of my life let’s break this down to personal, professional and performance. Alliteration anybody? New word I learned this year.
This year was the year that I got re-married. I got divorced officially in 2008. Two short years later I was married again and I will say that this has been the gold star on 2010. Karen is everything I could want in a partner down this path called life. Do we have the perfect relationship? Yes. Why would I say that? Because it is our relationship and I can only compare it to that. Us compared to Us. It doesn’t matter that another couple does this and we do that. It doesn’t matter that we do that and some other couple does this. We need to live our lives our way. That is how we know we will be happy.
So here is the story of how we wound up getting married. One Sunday I told her I as going to a bar with some friends to watch the Giants play the Chargers. It was late in the 2009 season and the Giants were on another downhill slide but could still get in the playoffs (sound like 2010?) Well the Giants charge out and I’m on top of the world. They then go on to blow the game and lose and I left the bar with time on the clock because I was disgusted. On the car ride back home I thought about the Giants and my life. See they had the world in their hands and they let it slip away. I was not going to do that with Karen.
I got home, I sat down on the couch. She was working and watching the Green Mile. As we were sitting there I looked at her and said ‘Hey, you know you mentioned marriage the other day. So do you want to?’ Her response was ‘Do I want to what?’ And I responded with ‘You know get married?’ She had a tear (she will tell you no) and we decided to get married.
We had a small wedding at the JP with Chico, her mom and dad. My mom and Bill flew in from Charlotte, along with my best-(wo)man and two other friends. We had a reception at a local restaurant and subsequently had our first fight as a married couple at the end of the night. Good times!
Personally this was a great year. I got married, developed a solid relationship with Chico and am closer to my Mother, Sister and Bill than ever before. I am also much closer to those friends that matter and have put the garbage to the side like spring or fall cleaning. I also discovered that friends are not just the ones that you can physically hang out with. Friends are those that are commenting on your blog, sending you emails and texts, wishing you the best during a marathon or a triathlon. Friends are those that are encouraging your and motivating you and inspiring you. Friends are those that make you laugh. I will say that in 2010 I gained a world of new friends….you…..and I thank you for being there for me. You are all AWESOME!
So 2010 started out like any other year in the past 15 years of my life in corporate America. Time to re-evaluate the business. Time to prepare for the upcoming negotiating season. Preparing an automated buying system. Plan, execute, deliver…..ALL OVER AGAIN!!!!!
Then July came and the news was that I was being let go. I spent 13 years with the company. I worked late nights. I worked weekends. My reaction to the news….LAUGHTER! What else was there to do? Cry? Nope, that wasn’t happening. I got my severance and in all honesty that is a true word. The relationship is severed. I don’t speak to anybody from that company anymore and it is somewhat sad. I kept up my end of the bargain and sent emails and a couple of phone calls. They don’t get returned…..well spring and fall cleaning as I said before.
I am not bitter one bit though. It opened my eyes up to the fact that in order for me to be truly successful I need to be doing something that I love. Something that I have a passion for. Working out. Nutrition. Health. All of these items are in my world and I love each and every one of them.
With that I started Marathon Makeover North Dallas as a side business. It was to be a business that occupied my weekends essentially and be a way for Karen, Chico and myself to travel for vacations because of the extra income it would generate.
What I have learned is that I have an entrepreneurial spirit. I love getting things off the ground. I have my hands in a handful of different projects now and the best part is I am learning about talents I did not know I had. I have the ability to social market. I have the ability to market via print as well as online. I already know the television and radio business so now I am way more rounded out as far as marketing talent is concerned. I have also learned how to network better and the statement ‘you never know who you are going to meet’ has been pushed front and center in my new world.
Am I looking for a job still? Yes, I am but in a world in which I will be happy on a daily basis. I have hired a career strategist to keep me on the straight and narrow and my eye on the prize.
Can I say this was my best year yet? I sure can. I raced more than ever before. I trained harder than ever before. I trained more than ever before and from all of this I had performances like never before.
In 2010 I raced 11 times. 5 running races and 6 triathlons. I placed on the podium in one 10k race and one sprint triathlon. I completed my first Olympic Tri in under 3 hours and believe that I left something on the course. I ran my 2nd marathon to the tune of a 50 minute improvement on my first and a time of 3:39:23.
I know that I have put miles on my body, my bike and my lungs like never before and I feel better than I have ever before. My mind is more confident than ever before and its from knowing that I can do things like run a marathon in under 4 hours and be able to think of qualifying for Boston. I also know that I can compete in a 70.3 race and it will show in April of 2011.
In reflection 2010 has been the best year of my life. I learned about true love. I learned about who I am as a person and what my passions are. I learned that the only obstacle to achieving greatness are the ones we put on ourselves.
Do I have resolutions for 2011? Nope. I don’t resolve to do anything, I just lay out goals for myself and watch as they tick off the list. What does that list consist of? Loving my wife more each and every passing day. Continue to solidify my relationship with Chico. Continue to find out who people really are. Continue to work on the projects I have going and to do that successfully.
I will compete in my first 70.3 race and hopefully a 2nd as well as qualify for Boston. I have times in my head for the 70.3 races but won’t let it out of the bag. You know what I need for Boston (3:15) so that is the goal there.
2011 will be here in less that 14 hours for those of us in the CST and I will wake up on 1/1/11 and put up a 9 miler. Now that is what I call a great way to start a New Year.
Here’s to you and all you do. Thank you for motivating and inspiring me. I can’t do the things I do without you.